It's not my child! The husband who doesn't want a child ever.

While he was initially looking forward to spending the quarantine with his partner, recent events have made the situation incredibly complicated.

Earlier in the year, he and his wife had decided to take a break and try seeing other people.

They both had brief flings with other people, but ultimately realised they truly did love each other and wanted to carry on their relationship.

So they got back together and that’s how they found themselves when lockdown started.

However after taking STD and pregnancy tests to be sure they were sexually healthy to continue on with their relationship, they discovered the woman was pregnant.

The man had said he’s never wanted children, but his wife is determined to keep the baby.

He wrote: “We’re child free (or at least I thought we were) and always had an agreement that if we ever had an accident we’d have a termination. The baby is definitely not mine, absolutely not possible.

“So she had a termination scheduled for last Thursday. She came to me on the day and said she just couldn’t go through with it – she wants to keep the baby. Now I freak out. I’ve told her we’ve always been child free and definitely I don’t want kids still. I don’t want to raise another man’s kid!

“She’s apologised to me for being so stupid but is saying she is 100 percent sure. I’ve been trying so hard to convince her she shouldn’t keep it but she’s just not having it. She’s said we can raise the kid as our own. I’m not having it. It would be hard enough if she had a kid of mine but at least I could accept that it’d be my kid if that happened. This kid will be another man’s! Nothing to do with me.”

He added: “What the hell do I do? I know the sensible answer is walk away and cut your losses but it’s not that easy. I love her and we’ve been in each other’s lives for so long. Plus were in the middle of a quarantine and she’s got nowhere to go since all flights has been grounded. I’d feel horrible kicking a pregnant woman out to fend for herself at a time like this!? But I don’t want a kid, ever. Not even if it was my own.”

What advice would you give to my friend here?

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Honeymoon gone bad: The 12 hours marriage.

Call it funny, confusing, crazy or perhaps total chaos. 

This was a true case I witnessed of a newly wedded couple in a Hotel at the heart of Accra.

I was with my friends at the reception of the hotel that night. We were keen on finishing a movie before going home after coming to watch a football game. It was just about a quarter pass midnight stroke.

A lady rushed out crying with her wedding gown tired around her body. She was barely naked. She ran about 50 metres towards the main gate of the hotel bare footed. Shortly after a man followed up in a boxer and singlet. Bare footed as well. This was the newly wedded couple. They have come for their honeymoon after a lavish wedding. The wedding car they came in with and the hotel they have booked for honeymoon alone will tell you the class of their wedding.

We watched from a distance as the man tried to pull the lady back to the hotel. It was becoming nasty so we moved in. 

The lady keeps shouting, "foolish man, you want to kill me!?, "Go for your ring", "Dickson, it's over!" 

Soon there was calm. 

Helen the wife, started talking... "This man is a killer. I'm a virgin. We both agreed on sex after marriage exclusively. Only to find out he's "Koti bortor", ie. uncircumcised huge di*k. "This marriage is over!", she screamed over and over. Seriously a glance at the front of Mr. Dickson's boxer says a lot. Even if he's not "koti bortor" as he has been claiming earlier,  Mr. Dickson is well endowed.

The man got speechless till we helped the lady to get into a taxi and she left. The rest is their own story to tell. 

The exchange of vows was barely 12 hours old and the marriage is already over as it is.

My questions. 

1. If that was the end of the marriage, was virgin a solution here? 

2. Was no sex till marriage a cool move. 

3. Even if she goes on with the marriage, how cool are the days ahead?

Join in the discussion with your comments.